“You just need to relax. Then you’ll get pregnant.”

Jun 2, 2011

I’ve heard this one a lot.

Thanks for this valuable tidbit!

I had no idea that was all it took to get pregnant! And to think, this entire time I’ve been trying timed sex and copious amounts of infertility drugs!  I really missed the memo on that one. Damn.


If relaxing alone could make babies, hippies would be crawling with little window-lickers.

And while this “relax” tactic may have worked for your cousin Britney, who tried for 3 WHOLE MONTHS (*rolls eyes*) before she got pregnant (“It only worked after she, like, completely forgot about trying and went on vacation instead!”), it doesn’t mean it’ll work for everyone.  If someone is actually talking about their inability to get pregnant with a total stranger, it’s pretty likely they’ve been trying for a long, long time.

But the #1 reason to never, ever say this to someone is pretty obvious.  If I told you, “You just need to lose weight, then you’ll get pregnant,” I’m basically calling you fat.

By you telling me to relax, you’re basically calling me uptight. Your “tip” is really just an insult, masquerading as bad advice.


About Me

Hiya! I'm Lydia. I live in Iowa with my husband and two children, both the result of iVF. I started this blog in 2011, so everything here's a wee bit... old. I don't do a ton of writing anymore... but I'm leaving the blog up, in case it's helpful for those who stumble across it.

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If you're going through infertility and want to see our journey, start in June 2011 (first two cycles) or January 2014 (third cycle). Hopefully reading about our rollercoaster with assisted reproduction brings you a little hope, and more than a few giggles. (Keep in mind that this information is over a decade old in most cases; please don't take anything you read here as medical advice. Consult your doctor for facts.)

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  1. This is awesome. i will be following – and most likely throw in a comment or two. MIssed you at Nationals. BIG TIME. We SO could have used you.

  2. So I hear if you have sex, that will get you pregnant. Have you tried that yet? 🙂 Loves! – Churchy

  3. Remember. Just pray. That will make it come true. 🙂 Love you guys and love the blog. You’re awesome for not being all weirdly secretive about it in the first place, it’s not like there is no one else out there with the same struggles…and…I am crossing fingers (not praying) that I don’t have to “relax” when I decide its time to have a family!!


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